Being OK When It Doesn’t Work Out. (Still Don’t Stop)

Updated: Sep 26, 2021

Pushing forward even though it is extremely scary, and you do not want to mess up. Going after your better life is a scary prospect, especially while you are grieving. After a long period of finding myself, I finally started exploring new things to see what “I” liked to do.

Problem is, when it messes up, it equals the sum of all fears. I am presently going through this with my podcast venture. I clearly didn’t know what I was getting into. There is a lot of work, but I am gonna keep on pushing through, it just will not be in the timeframe I thought. Initially, that brought me back to that old, defeated feeling. The one that “screams” lower self-esteem.

I walked away for a couple of hours and hit it again with a refocused mind. That is when I finally submitted to the fact that I am not going to make my deadline, but even scarier is the fact that I told the world that I was doing this (not literally but a lot of people), and now I must concede defeat, and understand the value of a tactical retreat (Sun Tzu) (live to fight another day).

That is what I am doing. Fighting back that voice in my head screaming defeat, revamping my moves and I will relaunch in a few weeks. Excuse the long story but because I want to talk about overcoming the fear, I thought that using a personal situation, might add some validity to this post. Many grievers feel helpless and defeated, because they have already used massive energy to get the project (thing) moving, you put in loads of work and it still doesn’t come off how, when, or the way you want it to be.

This is a critical time for a griever, because no matter what endeavor or situation you are in, if it doesn’t work out how you expected to, it can deflate you and face it, when you are already dealing with grief, another let down sucks, but this is also the time to challenge yourself.

You have spent a lot of time down on yourself and letting grief bring deeper into the darkness, At some time, it is time to come back to the light. That being said, we are going to make mistakes, we made them before our loved ones died, we just have to stop compounding them by beating ourselves up over them.

Keep in mind that you are embarking on a new journey (alone). Rome was not built in a day. Give yourself some credit and believe that you can recover from any situation. Show your loved one your new strength, that unfortunately was found in their loss. You have come back power and setbacks are a part of life. It is extra rough when you are dealing with grief. It is hard but powering through it presents its rewards in the future.

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