Updated: Feb 25, 2021
I was speaking to a former friend who was berating me over a relationship I had with her friend, my wife, who died a few years ago. This person proceeded to say, "You are 47 and not established". For a few days, I let that negative comment assault my mind. I actually was feeling low. I allowed that person and their comment to persuade me into believing I was inferior. A couple of days after that, I ran across a book that began to change my life.
The book was called Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill. In it, he discussed several men who became great well beyond their 40's. Abraham Lincoln was one of his examples. According to Hill, Lincoln was 48 when he became president. A more modern example would be Samuel L. Jackson, who got his big break at 45 with the movie, Pulp Fiction.
We must remember that every day we get better at what we do, as long as we stay committed. Will Smith said this in an interview, "Talent you have naturally, skill come from hours and hours and hours of beating on your craft."
Lebron James didn't become one the greatest basketball players in history overnight. Do not get me wrong. Talent plays a role, but talent was also an Allen Iverson attribute and his mantra was, "practice, who needs practice". (Iverson, I. nd) Where is he now in comparison to Lebron James, or any other player in the NBA, since he is no longer there.
Talent alone, can inflate your ego. Talent combined with skill, it can be leveling, because skill relies on all the hard work you've put in to bring your talent out. The blood, sweat and tears it took to achieve your goal, forces you to always remember what it took to get to where you are now. Talent, without the hard work needed to develop skill, will not allow you to last long in any arena.
Desire to always improve in life, no matter what your present occupation ( business man, politician, house wife/husband, CEO) is an attribute shared by many. Focus on getting