Updated: Jan 16, 2021
For years we have attempted to identify the traditional family structure. The issue is that family structures differ dramatically. Religion, politics, and social norms have attempted to push us into molds of what a traditional family should be. Although I may not agree with some people's lifestyle choices, I am not the person to make their decisions for them.
Since we do not know the true demographics of particular family structures, it is stupid to pigeon-hold people to one version of a traditional family structure, made up of a mother, father and children. As a single father of two college aged women, I feel this prejudice frequently. I have been asked questions like, "How are you going to be able to handle this." When my wife was alive, I did just fine and now she has passed, I have taken the values she has shown me over our 18 years together, put my own spin on them and are daily working out the roadmap for our new family structure.
People that look at raising a family in the most traditional manner, must understand that they need to do what is comfortable for them and not adhere to society's norms unless they choose to. If they do not, then the goal is to raise a happy and healthy family, no matter what it looks like to the outside world.
I know excellent fathers and mothers who have taken lifestyle approaches that would appear "crazy" to some traditionalist. The traditional family unit is rapidly being replaced by loving racially blended families, homosexual families and even divorced parents still living together due to economic and family interest. It is well known that about 50% of traditional (heterosexual) marriages end in divorce, while gay marriages for example have about a 1% divorce rate. (Brandon, G, June 4, 2017). Based on statics like this, is it more traditional to anticipate divorce over a have a happy and healthy union, no matter what it looks like to the outside world.
It is another case of the experts are not always being right, Jay Z was turned down by every record label, so he launched Roc-A-Fella, and he is now a billionaire. Likewise, statistically the NFL wrote Tom Brady off. Six Super Bowl rings and nine Super Bowl appearances later, Tom, clearly proved all the experts wrong. Needless to say, run your family in the way that works best for you and your lifestyle. Experts can be wrong.
The better part of your life can be found by not playing by traditional rules. This does not mean be cutthroat, it just means that you must evaluate advice and use it at your discretion and do not blindly follow others. Your family is of the utmost importance and your value systems can have aspects of traditional functions, but you can also create your own new traditions that support your nontraditional family life. Differences can be the catalyst to