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I was talking to a former friend who mentioned what someone shoulda, coulda, and woulda done to me. I am so glad that her wants didn't happen. In this case the delay of someone else caused the shoulda, coulda, woulda, factor to work in my favor. Remember, someone always wins on the other side of the deal you lose. Do not be the on the wrong side.

The shoulda, coulda, woulda factor is that form of procrastination, that results in your project never getting completed, your task getting done, or your mission being accomplished. It is the cry of the mediocre. Anyone talking about what they coulda, shoulda or woulda done, is delusional, and if they are your friend, you need to re-evaluate that relationship.

Two Harvard professors, Todd Rogers and Max Bazerman conducted studies on procrastination (the core of the dilemma) and found that people care more about their present self than their future self (Clear, J. nd). The article featuring the two professors work, was found on a website named The article titled, Two Harvard Professors Reveal One Reason Our Brains Love to Procrastinate, reveals why people choose to delay vs address certain situations.

Many people fall victim to this syndrome and pass it around to infect others. It is imperative to finding your better life, that you inoculate yourself by first identifying anyone or anything

having a shoulda, coulda, woulda attitude, evaluating its worth to you and weighing it against the factors of (S,C,W) and see which is worth more to you. After your evaluation of the circumstance, weigh the consequences of doing it immediately vs putting it off. See which one works better for you. Once you have done that, you should come to the conclusion that procrastination is not a benefit and doing it now is always the better path.


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